Andrea Kalaydjian, is a system analyst with more than 20 years experience in the IT field and a New Insight Certified life coach
Born in Argentina, where she studied and started her career, she has also worked in the UK, USA and South Africa where she currently lives....
Download "The Law Of Attraction In Action". Get instant access and change your life NOW. If you have ever wanted to transform your life this is the book to read. Written by wonderful web women this is a must read for anyone trying to improve their life and finances....
Life after death – does it exist?
By · CommentsIn the last couple of weeks there were so many people close to me that if they did not pass away this life then are sick or close to do so. The reality s that besides the younger people that passed on, I am personally at an age where all the older people I know are starting to pass on.
I just felt the urge to write today my thoughts because this has been in min mind for a while since my parents have reached the age where they could move on any time. This of course brings me feelings of sadness, especially because I am physically far from them.
I just phoned a friend and she was experiencing the loss of someone that was physically far from them. She told me we got “bad news”. And I agree with her that it is a bad news when you lose someone. I have another friend flying this week to see her mom in ICU.
We live so attached to things and people that when we lose them we are so sad and we call it “bad news”. And we have all the right to be sad. I am not saying you should not be sad, you should grieve every loss. The same we grieve for any other loss, being a home, a business, the end of a friendship, a divorce, moving countries or any other matter.
In the case of someone passing on, I must be honest I am sad because of myself and not really because of the person passing on. My rational mind tells me that they are gone forever, and I will never experience their friendship, talking to them or hugging them. So I will go through photos or things that will remind me of them, and even live in the past for a while remembering every single time I had spent with them.
But if I look at the bigger picture I believe that everything is energy. Everything that surrounds us including ourselves, our bodies and our spirits is energy. Energy never disappears it just change forms. So when the body dies, the body does not disappear (except that we bury it) it just changes forms, and our spirit does not disappear it changes form also. I also believe that we are all connected, we are one. You probably experienced many times this: you think of someone that day and that person calls you back. We call it telepathy, but in reality we are all one, when you think of something you are sending a vibration and the other person is picking it up.
I deviated a bit from what I wanted to say, but I believe we are all one, and although when people pass on we cannot be together physically, we can be in contact with them. They can still hear us, because hearing does not imply hearing a voice. They can hear your thoughts and your vibration. You can still be in contact with them.
The point of writing this is just to reflect that even though our loved ones are passing on, we will still be in touch with them. When we are happy they will be happy, and when we are sad they will be sad. There has been enough near death experiences to prove that people do not just disappear from this universe. They continue being and they experience a kind of peace that we do not experience on this Earth.
I can tell you of my experience when my younger sister passed almost 12 years ago from a painful illness. I travelled to see my sister for the weekend because I wanted to go and see a healer for her. No one wanted to go to the healer and I was prepared to travel for the weekend to do that ( I was living overseas). When I arrived and saw her I knew why nobody wanted to see a healer. Her physical body had deteriorated so much she look like a 60 year old person instead of 30. I was supposed to be there for 4 days and she actually passed on during that weekend and I believed that she hold on until I arrived there.
The 
night prior to her death my father was sleeping in the bedroom that my sister and I shared when growing up. My father does not believe in this, and if you still talk to him will not believe in this things, but he told me he saw his diseased mother coming into the room like if she came to fetch my sister. That night I also had a dream and saw my sister closing her eyes. The next morning she was taken to hospital and by 9 o’clock that night she was gone. The moment she passed on she had a smile on her face. That reflected the peace she was feeling after months of pain. By the way at the same time she passed on her 4 year old son who was sleeping woke up and said he could not sleep. I do believe my sister went to speak to him.
On the way to her funeral, we were waiting at the toll gate to pay and the car next to us got hit from behind and it turned upside down. Nobody got badly hurt. But in that car there was am ex girlfriend of my sister who had not behaved nicely with my sister and they had not had contact for a while. I do believe the accident was caused by my sister which did not want her ex girlfriend at the funeral. Too much coincidence, and I do not believe in coincidence.
Like this there are so many other stories that prove that we are still in contact with people that pass on, and that we should not be sad when someone passes on. It is the cycle of life and whoever passes on has finished his tasks that he was supposed to do.
It is so big this subject that is sometimes difficult to understand and needs to be studied more in depth, but reality is that yes you have the right to grief, but also know that you can be in contact with your loved ones, whenever you want to, and you should not stress about it. It is the cycle of life.
Tough times – Learning to appreciate tough times
By · CommentsEveryone goes through good and tough times in their lives. Perhaps we are lives, enjoying very day until the day that an obstacle or challenge presents in our lives. This could be a small obstacle or could be something really serious, heartbreaking and depressing that could happen to us. When this happens what is important to remember is that you can choose how to respond to this challenge.
Ultimately everything in our lives boils down to the way in which we respond to situations. Our life is a succession of choices that we make when we are presented with situations or events. Some of the choices we make. Many times we make these choices unconsciously because we have been conditioned that way. The secret that allows you to convert your challenges into opportunities is remembering that ultimately we have the power to decide how we will react to situations.
Let’s consider the simplified idea of seeing the glass full or empty. Each of us perceives a situation in different ways, depending on our conditioning, our background, upbringing and many other aspects that influence how we see an event. Imagine a situation of a car accident, provided there are no injuries the drivers of the cars involved in the accident t will not be happy with the situation, but the tow truck driver that gets to the accident scene would be the happiest person in this situation. Can you see two totally opposing perspectives? The two persons involved in the accident would have a bad day if the choose to but for the tow truck driver it would have been a great day.
What this example tells us that the world around us simply exists, but it is us who puts the perceptions and feelings that make a situation positive or negative. I say this again, the world simply exists; it is our perception that determines if a situation is good or bad. Because we are creative, and we are in control of our thoughts then we can choose to make the situation positive or negative. If we are faced with an event or situation where we reacted negatively before we can choose now to change that and react in a positive manner. We can choose to create positive beliefs about the event. Remember you can create your own beliefs; you can change all your beliefs around and make them positive.
I am personally working on the habit of cherishing tough times, knowing that I can change how I perceive a situation and knowing that after a door closes another opens. It is important for me to stay focused on the positive even if I encounter many challenges and obstacles. When I encounter a challenge I remember Robert Collier’s quote, “In every adversity there lies the seed of an equivalent advantage.”
Let’s consider Dustin Carter situation. Dustin was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder at age 5. To save his life the doctors had to amputate the majority of his limbs. The doctors were forced to amputate the majority of all of his limbs. But this did not put Dustin off. In spite of his circumstances he is a top student wrestler working towards a full wrestling scholarship. He is an inspiration to everyone and he really gives hopes to anyone that is in his same situation or anyone that think they have no solution to their problems.
In this information era many people facing tough times were able to change this situation and become successful entrepreneurs. There are hundreds of examples just in the internet world or the real estate world. One of the examples that come to mind is Ryan Higgins, creator of the mind movie. He was 70000 dollars in debt and frustrated with a job that did not interest him. He turned his situation around and now he is living the life of his dreams.
Another example would be Robert Allen in the real estate arena. He run a controversial ad saying that if you leave him in any city with 100 USD and no wallet he would still be able to buy a property. After this ad his book No money Down went to the top of the New York Times Best Seller. An LA reporter then challenged him and called him a fraud. Robert had to then prove himself not to lose his reputation and his business. SO he was taken to San Francisco, given 100 USD and his wallet was taken away. He needed to make this work; otherwise his career would be ruined. With a positive mindset he could pull it off. He bought with 100USd 7 properties worth $7000,000 in 57 hours. Well he rose to success after this incident.
Do you think your life will be different if you could change a negative experience into something positive? Do you think if you look at things positively you would be bale to see more doors opening for you? Perhaps you would see it as a growing experience? Despite all the tough times you are experiencing right now, if you decide to look at the positive aspects of the situation you will start to experience incredible result sin your life and you would be an inspiration to others.
As a further inspiration to show you that you can overcome any tough time in your life, I leave you with a video from Dick and Rick Hoyt, The story says this
A son asked his father, “Dad, will you take part in a marathon with me?” The father who despite having a heart condition, said, “Yes”.
They went on to complete the marathon together. Father and son went on to join other marathons, the father always saying, “Yes” to his son’s request of going through the race together.
One day, the son asked his father, ‘Dad, let us join the Ironman together; to which his father said, “Yes”, too.
For those who don’t know, Ironman is the toughest triathlon ever. The race consists of three endurance events of a 2.4 miles (3.86 kilometers) ocean swim followed by a 112 miles (180.2 kilometers) bike ride and ending with a 26.2 miles (42.195 kilometers) marathon along the coast of the Big Island.
Father and son went on to complete the race together.
Japan – World prayer day
By · CommentsRead this and pass it on. We think we cannot do anything for Japan but we can, every prayer counts and we can help reverse the situation.
12:00 noon TODAY (31st March 2011)
is World Prayer Day
for the Water of Fukushima Nuclear Plant
PLEASE JOIN US
To All People Around the World,
Please send your prayers of love and gratitude to water at the nuclear plants in Fukushima, Japan!
By the massive earthquakes of Magnitude 9 and surreal massive tsunamis, more than 10,000 people are still missing even now. It has been 16 days already since the disaster happened. What makes it worse is that water at the reactors of Fukushima Nuclear Plants started to leak, and it’s contaminating the ocean, air and water molecules of surrounding areas.
Human wisdom has not been able to do much to solve the problem, but we are only trying to cool down the anger of radioactive materials in the reactors by discharging water to them.
Is there really nothing else to do?
I think there is! During over twenty year research of hado measuring and water crystal photographic technology, I have been witnessing that water can turn positive when it receives pure vibration of human prayer no matter how far away it is.
The Energy formula of Albert Einstein:-E=MC2 really means that Energy = number of people and the square of people’s consciousness.
Now is the time to understand its true meaning…..
Let us all join the prayer ceremony as fellow citizens of the planet earth. I would like to ask all people, not just in Japan, but all around the world to please help us to find a way out of the crisis of this planet!
The prayer procedure is as follows;
Day and Time:
March 31st, 2011 (Thursday)
12:00 noon in your time zone.
And even if you miss the exact time, know that any time is a good time to offer our healing.
Please say the following phrase:
“To The Water of Fukushima Nuclear Plant,
we are sorry to make you suffer.
Please forgive us.
We thank you,
and we love you”
Please say it aloud or in your mind.
Repeat it three times as you put your hands together in a prayer position.
Please offer your sincere prayers.
Thank you very much from my heart.
With love and gratitude,
Masaru Emoto
Messenger of Water
Mind Movies Reviews – Is your Photos Board good enough?
By · CommentsI wanted to write a short article about mind movies and vision boards. You probably have heard quite a bit about mind movies lately as they are busy launching a new updated version of it. You can read my mind movies reviews which I will keep updating with more details when they launch it.
Interestingly mind movies have been developed by Ryan Higgins and Natalie Ledwell from Australia and the OrangePeel System or Vision Boards has been created by Cornelis Boertjens from New Zealand. I will be doing the Vision Boards system review soon.
But no matter what system you use, the key here is the visualization process and yes it is nice having a fancy system, but you do not really need one.
Just the old vision board on your wall or a frame is as effective as these ones. The key to achieving your goals is to know clearly what you want and to visualize it as if you already have it. Visualize it and feel it as if you already have it.
The universe has already provided anything you want. Whatever you desire it is in storage for you. All you need to do is to make sure that you want it, and to ask for it. You may say, but I have asked many times and nothing happens. To be honest it happens to me also. I ask many times and I do not get results. But to be frank when this happens to me is because my mind is not clear at all. When this happens is because I change my mind all the time and jump from one thing to the next.
The times that the visualization, vision boards worked for me is when I wanted something and my mind never changed. I wanted, I visualized it but I then released it and let the universe do its thing. So then, having asked, the universe just went to my warehouse and delivered what I already had in my warehouse.
Let me give you an example that occurred to me. I am a mature mother; I had my son at 40, but I always wanted to have another child. I had a photo of a woman with a son and daughter on top of my computer. But time was passing on and I just thought this dream would not come true. I stressed, and nothing happened. At the end I just had that image on the wall, but I did not pay attention to it. I thought the universe would not deliver it. I just released it and I felt happy and resigned myself to the idea of just having one child. But then the universe went to work. One night in a meditation group I used to go, a couple of people felt the presence of a baby, and I also did, I actually saw the bay surrounded by light inside of me. I thought that was my imagination and that I wanted this child so much that I was thinking of it. Imagine my surprise when the next day I discovered that I was indeed pregnant!! I now have a lovely son and a beautiful daughter. When I think of this I can see that visualization does work to attract what you desire. I do believe so when you take into account that I actually was 43 when I fell pregnant.
So I hope I give you the courage to start again your visualization process of what you want. Pull out your goals that you wrote at the beginning of the year, revise them, prepare a vision board with images from old magazines or from the internet and hang it where you will see it often. If you can afford it and want to then you mind consider getting the mind movies or vision board system. Visit my mind movies reviews site to read about it (remmeber I will keep updating as I evaluate the new version). Just a word of warning, no matter if you use your own vision board images or if you use a system, nothing will give you results if you do not take action. I could have had a photo of 10 children on my wall, but if I ad not taken action I would have not fallen pregnant (you know what I mean).
So, get out there, have fun creating yoru vision board, but most importantly take action.
Nowadays, we live such hectic lifes with so many things to do between work, children house work, cell phones and now internet. It seems that you can never have any longer that moment in which you are out of reach. There is so much overload of things to do and of informaion that sometimes I feel like I cannot function. Sometimes life seems faster than he speed of light.
I personaly feel exhausted and not being able to cope and sometimes I wonder is it me that I am not apt to it? Then I realize that I have my negative thinking cap on and that I need to change it and do something to overcome that situation. Then I realize that I have failed to set my priorities. Sometimes my priorities are all work and no time for myself and my spiritual nurturing. The thing I realize that it took me a long time to overcome certain issues, and I would not say I am there yet, but many times I just decided to hide behind my work and daily responsibilities instead of taking responsibility for my personal development. Yes personal development is a daily activity and we need to schedule it every day.
What I wanted to really talk to you today is about a technique that is easy to use and couldhelp you deal with all your emotional stuff. That stuff that has been unresolved ofr years because we do not have the time to tackle it. Well I guessed I found out the hard way that if we do not tucckle it it will not go away. And to solve all that emotional stuff I needed to do something easy to do and I can do every day.
I was introduced to this technique years ago and then my lovely coach Kate Emmerson reminded me of it. I am talking about EFT and not referring to Electronic Fund Transfer but to Emotional Freedom Technique. You can learn it fast and apply it whenever you want to as many times as you want to as it only takes minutes to apply it. But rather than explainig you the whole technique myself, I wated to tell you that there is a EFT World Summit starting on the 21st of February, and it is free to attend, yes totally free and is also online, so no need to travel. If you want more information you can read my review about the tapping solution.
I will check it out and make sure I can listen to it some of the days if not all. You have 24 hours to listen to each presentation, so check it out and make sure to register so that you can receive reminders of the daily schedule.
World financial crisis – what can we do about it?
By · Comments
For the last 15 years I have been hearing that the financial system as we know it will disappear and we all heard about the 2012 predictions. Some of these predictions may seem a bit extreme, and who knows if they will be true or not. Some people around the world are taking extreme measures to protect themselves from physical changes, and natural disasters. The world has change, and climate changes and natural disasters are very real, but I am not sure if we can do anything to protect ourselves. But I do believe we can try to protect ourselves from financial crisis.
It is very clear that there is a financial crisis in the world, and United States is proof of it. I do not think everybody yet understand the implications of what is happening, and is not something that just happened overnight. Mike Dillard, a young and successful entrepreneur, has decided to research what to do to protect his assets and he has traveled the world to interview billionaires and learn on how they protect themselves financially. He is now sharing all what he has learned in The Elevation Group membership program. Mike says that every Empire though history has come to an end, and he compares the United States to the Roman Empire. He says that even though we are more technologically advanced and we have learned lots, we are still human, and emotions and human nature will not change so the same mistakes and the same cycles will repeat.
He claims United States will go through an hyperinflation cycle, and that 20 other countries have gone through that in the last century. Having personally lived in one in Argentina, and Argentina has gone through more than one, I can tell you it is not nice reaching the supermarket shelf and seeing that the money that yesterday bought you a litre of milk, today will not. It is not nice also, having supposedly certain amount of money in your bank account or in bonds, and then the government telling you that you have now less money, like if you ha
d 100 000 USD dollars now the buying power of that money is 100 USD. For the general public this seems to happen from one day to the next. No time to react.
Mike has created this membership where he will share with average people how to protect your assets, and how to benefit from these economic changes. To be real the great depression produced more millionaires than in other times, and this economic crisis will not be different.
What will Mike promise in his money back guarantee membership. I will tell you in summary, but you can also watch his very informative video here, where he explains more about the changes that will occur in the near future.
I will be honest with you, I just learned about this new program and so I will be joining because it has been something that it was in my mind for a couple of years now, but I was not sure where to get the information from. But I wanted to let everyone know that this exist, and then you can do your own homework and decide by yourself if this is for you or not.
Mike will reveal the following in The elevation group:
- How you can get VERY rich during times of economic turmoil, even if you don’t have a lot of money to invest…
- What’s going to happen in the economy during the next 6 to 36 months that will bankrupt 95% of the population, and how you can protect your wealth… (FACT: This has already happened in 30 different countries during the last 100 years, and TWICE in the US!)
- How I’ve increased my wealth by 118% since 2008, while most people lost 30-40% – and how you can do the same.
- Why you’d have to be absolutely crazy to put your money in the stock market right now…
- Roth IRA or 401K got you down? You’ll learn about a secret “black-box” investment strategy the rich use to grow their money, and retire 100% tax free, even if the stock-market crashes to ZERO…
- The top 5 challenges facing the US economy, and how to protect yourself from them.
- How to make an extra $1,000 to $10,000/Mo as a “Publishing Partner” for The Elevation Group…
- How you could have turned a simple $20,663 investment into $770,796.00 in just 9 years in 1980 – and even MORE this time…
- What’s going to happen soon that will make the price of silver jump from $25 per ounce, to $936, and gold from $1,380 per ounce, to $56,000…
- How to ensure your children will grow up wealthy, even if you’re poor today…
- The easy way to buy cash-flow assets like apartment complexes, even if you don’t know much about real-estate…
- The 3 things you MUST HAVE IMMEDIATELY if you want to profit from the largest wealth transfer in human history, that’s taking place RIGHT NOW… And MUCH, MUCH, MORE!
I know this is geared mainly for the United States, but I do believe it will affect everybody no matter where we live as the United States has such a power over the rest of the world. So please listen to his 90 minute presenattion, and even if you do not join his Group, I suggest you do some homework on how to protect yourself
Passive Income Idea: Does passive income really work?
By · CommentsIf you browse the internet there has been an increase of number of opportunities that promote the passive income lifestyle. To say an increase is to put it mildly. The internet and free classifieds are actually flooded with passive income ideas.
I have been in my search for a passive income for quite a few years now, and I have tried few things and I came to the following conclusions:
Many people when they come across a passive income idea they expect not to do anything and the money will come. That is the gist of passive income, but it is not like you will not do anything and the cash will start flowing.
Lets look at different passive income ideas, some traditional and some not so traditional
- Put your mo
ney in the bank and earn interest. This will be passive but to earn a significant amount of passive income you need to start with a significan t capital. Like any other opportunity it has risks attached to it.
- Buy property and rent it out. This is a good and traditional idea, it is passive, but also involves work. The main thing here is that you need to know what you are doing. You may need an initial capital, although there are ways of buying property with no money, but you need to know what you are doing. So you need education and it will always involve some work from your side, before buying and after buying the property.
- Stock market. This is a traditional idea, where you buy stock and wait and see. You really need to understand how the stock market works to make money, and yes it is passive, but you always need to act with caution.
- Internet marketing/affiliate marketing: This can generate a passive income but at the beginning is not passive, unless you
just outsourcing everything and paying someone to do the business for you. This is a good option but it requires lots of learning and doing to start with
- Network Marketing, or MLM, this business model can generate passive income but as said, every business requires you to educate yourself and to do an initial amount of work. In some cases and for an initial period of time you might need to work harder than in a 9 to 5 job.
My point is that no business is totally passive. You need to do your initial work. Then you might get some passive income later. But In some cases it might be easier to achieve the sort of “passive income” idea.
I have previously tried a couple of multilevel marketing companies, with no success. I must be honest, many of the times I did not put the effort needed to build the business and enjoy that passive income. But looking at the successful people, it was not as passive as I thought it would be. Recently I have been reading lots again about multilevel marketing, and after realizing that is a business that will help me develop my communication skills and make me grow personally I again went in search of a suitable company. For me a suitable company would be a company t
hat offers a product that I love, and that is affordable so that I can refer others to the opportunity knowing that they will benefit from it.
To my surprise I found one company that I really like. It is affordable to join, and it is in the personal development field, which I love. I researched the company and have been in contact with them many times, and what I like is their honesty. They do not promise you to generate a passive income in the next couple of months. But they assured that if you do minimum work for 15 minutes to 30 minutes a day, then after 6 months or a year you will start seeing some results.
The company is an international company, for all English speaking people, it has great quality products, and if you do the work, they will help you as much as they can for you to success. I found Be Motivated Today to be an inspiring company that anyone can join, since the fees are really affordable and their compensation plan makes it easy to generate with time a passive income. Am I successful yet? No. I just joined the company but I think anyone that is interested in making some extra money should at least consider it. You can try their products for 14 days free. I personally been in touch with people that have been successful with this opportunity, and they all assured me that if I do my work, it really works.
Am I expecting to generate my income only from this company? Not but I am using this company and their products to develop some of the skills I think I need to develop, like communication and leadership skills. I also realize that in these times and with the future predictions anyone will benefit by having extra income and not putting all eggs in one basket. So personally I am telling anyone I know about this passive income idea. It might be for you or not, but if you do not look at it, you would not know.
PS, Watch out for another posts where I will explain exactly what this company offers, and will describe their products.
Steps to success – One simple step is all you need.
By · CommentsIf you want to be successful all you need is to find one successful person and copy what they are doing. Repetition is the mother of success. Dani Johnson claims that you do not need to invent the wheel, just find someone that has done it and has been successful and copy everything they do.
If you haven’t yet heard of Dani Johnson and what she’s doing for her clients all over the world then you are missing out on a revolution.
I came across Dani Johnson not long ago, and she immediately caught my attention. Here’s what blows me away; in this crazy economy, Dani’s clients are landing the impossible to get jobs, her business clients are generating record profits and her people are being promoted while thousands are losing their jobs.
Her site is full of testimonials of people that have applied her teachings and have achieved success in all areas of heir lives, -financial, career, family, and spiritual. Here is one of the testimonials Dani has collected in just the last 6 years…
“I was in a full commission job. I woke up every month with a big fat 0, working 60-80 hours a week, just totally burnt out, hated my job, hated getting out of bed. Applying Dani Johnson’s strategies, her skill sets, the things that she teaches, we were able to make a $241,000 income in less than a year. I would highly recommend anybody, if you want to be a success, you can apply the principles that she teaches to anything you do and become successful at it. The skills Dani imparts into you will absolutely change your life.”
~ Kelly Parker
The reason I am writing about her is because she is having an influence in my life and I really think it is worth while having a look at her site. She offers free training in her site and you can listen her radio archives also, or even phone her on the radio and speak to her directly. I consider her a down to earth person, who has a passion to help people succeed as she has succeeded.
This is what makes Dani Johnson revolutionary and why you need to pay close attention…
She went from homeless to millionaire in 2 years at the age of 23. In the last 15 plus years, Dani has created several multi-million dollar businesses and developed a multitude of 6 and 7 figure earners in the corporate world and in private business. But she also has achieved success in her family and spiritual life. Her story is very inspirational, and I do believe anyone can repeat it.
What I also like from her is that she gives you steps by steps instructions on what to do in all areas. She stresses that communication is essential to your success, and she goes in detail to explain you and demonstrate what she means by that. She teaches communication techniques to be used in your business, career, with your spouse and children.
Besides her free training she has several paid programs to train you for unlimited success in life, in your business or career, with your family with your children.
I honestly think you need to look at her site. Regardless of her views and beliefs there is lots to learn from her.
Are your rules working for or against you?
By · CommentsWe all have rules in our lives, sometimes we do not even realise them but we have rules for everything.
We have rules for our house, when to eat, when to shop =, when our children can watch TV, when they can play on the play station, where they can eat, when they must go to bed, and their cores at home.
But besides those rules we have our own rules, that we may have not consciously put them.
For example some rules could be with regards to your loved one:
“If you loved me you would buy a birthday card every year.”
“If you loved me you would spoil me at my birthday.”
“If you loved me you would me phone me twice a day just to say hi.”
“If you cared about me and I phoned you because I was in trouble you will just leave everything else and come to my rescue.”
And so many other rules we do not even think. We just assume that that is the rule and everybody needs to adhere to them.
Some rules for friends could be, if you cared about me you would phone me at least 2 a week,
If you cared about me and I feel down you would come and keep company.
And so many other rules. But let’s face it, if you have that rule and the other person does not oblige to it, how do you feel? Do you feel good or bad?
Chances are that you would feel bad. If your friend has something important to do and she/he cannot spend time with you, then you would feel left like she/he does not love you and if you are depressed you are probably feel more depressed
I am guilty of these rules also. I got lots of rules also and the thing is that we do not look at them and decide to change them easily.
Let’s look at an example,
IF you loved me you would phone me at least once to say hi. That is one of the rules I had.
The thing is that some people like phoning others, and others do not like phoning. They do not see the need to phone. So if my phone does not ring I feel bad.
But how can I change this rule to make me feel happier and to take control of my feelings. Because at the end of the day is my attitude towards it that makes me feels bad.
Well, I could change this rule around and say:
Every time I think of you I feel loved.
So now the responsibility is entirely on me. I do not rely on the other person to feel loved.
Let’s do another example:
“If you respect me you would listen to what I need to say”.
Well sometimes we do not listen and that is a fact. Few people listen well. But if instead I made my rule like:
Anytime I listen to my children or to my partner or my friend I feel respected. Then the responsibility is on me.
I am the only one to blame if I do not feel respected.
C
an you see the difference? Can you see that you are now solely responsible for your happiness and your mood. Let’s face it we are the only ones that can change what is wrong in our life. No one else can makes us happy. So if you are wondering why you are not feeling great then revisit your rules.
Now we all have rules. We just need to determine then, and create new rules in positive way
To do so the rules need to start with “anytime”, or “whenever”, and not “every time”. In this way it is much easier to feel good if we fail to comply with the rule from time to time.
So now I encourage to discover your rules, see how they are working or not working in your life and changed them. Once you changed them you will need to repeat them daily as to assimilate them. Please share how you changed your rules below.
Beliefs – we are what we believe
By · CommentsBeliefs are our core foundation in life. Whatever we believe, we are, whatever we believe we become. Our lives are built on our beliefs. Our opinions, attitudes, successes, failures all come back to our beliefs.
When we wake up each morning, our choice of glass half full or glass half empty depends on our beliefs. So many times we are not even aware of what we believe. Watch this video about my beliefs on beliefs.
Please, if you like the video then share your opinion and share it with your friends.
Have a great day!!
Twitter
Facebook