Andrea Kalaydjian, is a system analyst with more than 20 years experience in the IT field and a New Insight Certified life coach
Born in Argentina, where she studied and started her career, she has also worked in the UK, USA and South Africa where she currently lives....
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Power of positive thinking – A constructive realization
Posted by: | CommentsWe have all heard about the power of positive thinking and how it can change and improve our lives. If we think positive thoughts then we expect positive results, we confront challenges in a positive manner and we look forward to the best result.
Sometimes we do not get the best, but that is life. I believe we came here to learn a lesson, and some of the lessons get presented as challenges. The important thing is your attitude to face the challenge you are dealt with.
Positive thoughts are not just something we change from one day to the other one. It involves a change of ourselves, of our mindset, of our lifestyles. Let me explain what I mean. I will best explain it with my experience. I included positive thoughts in my life, everyday I do my affirmations and when things go bad I become aware of it and change my thoughts. But I am not always aware of it.
At the same time we all need to vent sometimes. Yes, things happen and we vent. So I came to realise that sometimes I vent with too many people, therefore emphasizing things that did not have the outcome I wanted. But that was not on purpose. If I speak to a friend and she asks me how things are, I just tell them how they are. With this I am stressing the negative things, but also my friends think I am complaining. At the beginning this annoyed me because I was not complaining. I was just merely telling the way things were. Then I thought that complaining or not complaining I am giving too much emphasis on things that are not positive.
I have made a commitment this week to incorporate this to my life. I will vent with my coach and one other person. I will say it once to get it out of my system and then leave it to the universe. To the rest I will just say things are great, and speak about the positives. This way I will minimise the negative, the whining and complaining. I will embrace every minute as a lesson.
How about you? Do you tell all your problems to all your friends?
Do you talk to your friend about the good things or do you meet for coffee to complain about your boss, your partner, or your lack of luck?
I would like to read your comments on this.
How to laugh and enjoy your life
Posted by: | CommentsThis week I decided to re learn how to laugh. It is actually sad that I had reached this point in my life. But this is part of my commitment to my development. If you think when we were children we smiled and laughed for the silliest things. Just watch children, they have a natural and contagious laughter.
I come to realize that sometimes I take life too seriously. Then I forget to laugh. It is actually sad that some of us consider take life as something serious forgetting to laugh regularly.
When I used to go to school I used to have laughter attacks and would start laughing at anything and would be tempted to continue for hours, anything was enough to start the laughter. Somehow with the challenges that life gave me I lost that ability. I do not know how fear, worries and anxiety made me become a sort of serious person. I am really sorry that I have missed so much in the last years just because I was more involved with “adult” life.
When I watch my own children I can see they just are free souls that not worry about much. They can cry and laugh almost in a second. They are more in touch with their emotions. It s a spontaneous laugh and it can go on for a long time.
This week I have started to experiment with my children, to participate, to share their emotions. I have now started laughing with them. We tickle each other and we have fun for about ten minutes. I love feeling connected again with that inner child. In this way I also release all the tension I have in me.
Laughter is a survival mechanism; it really helps to overcome challenges. Humour and laughter increase the wish to live. This of course helps you to continue despite all the challenges life gives you. Try to laugh, even if you fake it, and be aware of how you feel afterwards/ Even a smile will change your mindset.
Laughter has tremendous physical and psychological benefits. Some of them are:
- It reduces stress. Laughter reduces the stress hormones while increasing enhancing hormones like endorphins, the happy hormone
- It provides a good emotional and physical release. You feel lighter afterwards.
- It acts as a pain killer; it reduces the emotional and physical pain you feel by increasing the pain threshold.
- It gives your abdomen a workout. It exercises the diaphragm, the abs and even the shoulders.
- It keeps you younger. Smiling or laughing exercises muscles we do not use otherwise making you feel younger.
- It keeps depression away, It also distracts you from your worries
- It increases your immune system
- It reduces aggression.
- It makes us feel like children again.
- It helps us make connections and therefore improve our social life. Laughing connects people; it breaks the silence and breaks the ice in an uncomfortable situation. I
laughter benefits
This is what I have been doing this week, twice a day. I have set the timer for 5 minutes and started laughing without stopping. I had to fake it at the beginning but then I got myself going. Also my children joined in and we all had a good laugh. It was incredible how light I felt afterwards
Life does not need to be serious. Do you have the courage to try it?
I would love to hear your comments and experiences on this.
Do you laugh often?
When you laugh how do you feel?
Tell us about any anecdote.
Personal journey – Is my life perfect?
Posted by: | CommentsI have been involved in personal development for many years, reading self help books since I was a teenager. I always dreamt of becoming a public speaker and helping people.
One of the obstacles I had to overcome to be a coach was to accept that my life does not need to be perfect before I can coach someone else. This belief was also introduced by people that surrounded me that believed I could never be a coach/ public speaker if I did not sort out my life first.
Since then I have learned that this statement is a myth. My life will never be perfect. Or perhaps depending on your beliefs my life is perfect because I am where I am supposed to be and therefore everybody’s life is perfect.
What I meant above is that my life will always have challenges. It is through the challenges that we learn. My personal belief is that we come here to learn and it would be pointless to stay around if we are perfect and not learning.
In my coaching practice I have often found that my clients challenges are also mine. They are a mirror of my life, and the more I coach them the more I learn myself.
I decided to write this post so that I make clear to everybody out there that my life is not perfect and it will never be. In fact this year has been one of the most difficult ones, and the previous years have not been easy either. In this article I wanted to commit to share with you my personal journey and how I will be overcoming different challenges I have. The more challenges the more powerful we become.
I know it is easier said than done but I think the important point is to constantly remind us what we are learning. Sometimes when we are a bit down, or worried about something we can get lost in our problem and forget all the good things we learned in life. Oh well, we live and learn.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Enjoy your journey.
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