Improving your life – Have you heard of the model of change?

Change is not easy for everyone. We are creatures of habits, and once we acquire them we need to make a conscious effort to change them.

Many people are unhappy with their lives, but few of them actually do something to improve it. Some think that they do not have the power to do it. For others they know they can change it but they are scared of change. They are quite comfortable where they are. So they are not desperate enough to change.

I want to talk to you today about the model of change. When someone decides to change they normally go through the same process. There are 6 steps in this model:

1. You realize that you are unhappy with the current situation. At this stage you know you are unhappy but you have not done anything about it.
2. At this stage you are thinking and deciding what you can do. You consider different options, getting help, changing career, jobs, houses, marital status, country, cars, diets, habits or anything that you may be unhappy about. For example you are deciding if you should go back to university to further your studies, or if you should stop smoking to improve your health.
3. At this stage you take relevant action. Now you set your goals and milestones, and you do what you need to do to achieve them. For example you register at university, you start a diet,  you stop smoking completely or partially.  It takes lots of courage to get at this point and only 5% of people that are unhappy really take action.
4. By this stage you have been taking action regularly.  You may have achieved some milestones, like doing a subject or losing 2 kilos, or being cigarette free for 2 weeks. You are probably feeling positive about this change and you know you can conquer it, although sometimes you may feel overwhelmed about it.
5. At this stage you may regress a bit. Suddenly you do not feel like studying, you are missing your TV program or going out with friends. Or maybe you had a social event where you could not resist that cigarette or the food. Next day you were too tired to go to the gym, and once you missed a session you felt lazy to carry on. Yes you have regressed in your journey of change. This does not mean that you have failed. Everyone is allowed to regress, it is normal, so you do not need to beat yourself up.
6. At this stage you have realised that if you do not get your act together you probably will never change. So you bounce back and you continue taking action towards your change. It is now time to celebrate. You have achieved your desired change and you are now happy.

Sometimes you may get stuck in any of these stages. It may seem like nothing is happening.  So what do you do then?

1. If you are unhappy about a situation, then look at yourself, be honest and take responsibility. You are the only one to blame. Look inside yourself and make a plan to change.
2. Thinking and deciding: Well just see how this situation has affected your life and realise that unless you do something different you will always get the same results.
3. Plan the change and make a commitment to yourself to carry on with it.
4. It is easier to maintain action if you set up small milestones. Celebrate each time you reach a milestone. Share it with someone and allow yourself a pat on your back.
5. You may or may not regress, and that depends on your determination to change and your circumstances. But if you do, then I suggest that you accept that regression is normal, learn from it and take action again to continue the journey of change.
6. Once change has occurred then it is time to celebrate and decide to change something else.

Some people are scared of change. And it is understandable, But remember everything is constantly changing. If you do not change, then you may be left behind. Change is needed to grow and learn. Learning is our purpose in this lifetime.

Remember we cannot fail, we are just learning, so if we think about it, we have nothing to lose by changing.

I encourage to look at something you are unhappy in your life and change it. Tells us about your journey, sharing it you may help someone else.

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